So Many Ways to Access Gratitude

I once had a friend say to me,
“Jenny…. have no expectations, and you’ll never be disappointed.”
This comment did not sit well with me.
It sounded so dull, so sad, so…. boring!
How can you look forward to things if you don’t have expectations???
Only recently have I come to understand this very sage, very wise advice.
It’s not really expectations that can harm us, but the attachment we have to certain outcomes, and the meaning we make of them, that can lead to disappointment.
Maybe I’m only speaking for myself, but when I want something, or I’m hoping for a certain outcome, I can get pretty specific.
So specific in fact, that there’s very little room for anything BETTER to come my way.
What I mean is, when I decide for myself that I want something, I leave nothing left for the Universe to surprise me with.
My limited expectations leave nothing left to unlimited possibility.
I’ll use this simple example:
Let’s say I’ve painted a beautiful piece of artwork, and I’ve decided I want to sell it. For me, having someone appreciate my artwork enough to want to purchase it is already super exciting, so I timidly ask for $200. In my mind, $200 for a painting is amazing, and beyond what I think someone would be willing to pay.
And then, as the money is being exchanged, they say,
“I like it so much, I’ll give you $1000.”
Hmmm, maybe this isn’t the best example….?
Well… think of your dream job, or your dream home, or your dream relationship, or your dream anything… no matter how fantastic it is in your mind, it’s a limited picture. What if it could be… more?
What if your wildest dreams are beyond what your human mind could fathom??
In this case, not getting what you expected, works out for the better, because you ended up getting MORE than what you wanted.
More importantly, we need to talk about the pain we feel when we don’t get what we want.
Let’s say you have this amazing image/expectation in your mind, and it comes crashing down. You’ve set your expectations high, and you don’t get what you’ve been hoping for.
Likely, you feel disappointed, hurt, unworthy, let down, not good enough, etc.
What if…… NOT getting what you want is the BEST thing that could’ve happened to you?
What if the devastation of not getting what you want has created an opening to something you couldn’t have anticipated, had you gotten what you *thought* was best for you?
This week, I’ve been playing with this concept:
OBSTACLE vs OPPORTUNITY

If something looks like a road block, it’s also a redirection.
Definitely something unexpected, and…. possibly, the BEST thing that could’ve ever happened.
Think of the 90 degree turns in your life; the sharp corners where your direction was completely altered.
You were headed on one path, and everything changed.
You lost your job, a relationship ended, you had a health scare, a loved one passed away… all of these are painful experiences, and any one of them would tear you apart.
Over time, you have changed, because your path has changed.
You can be angry, and dwell on the ‘not getting’….

Or you can trade your expectation for appreciation.
Who are the important people in your life that are only there because you didn’t get what you’d originally intended?
What sorts of things are you doing in your life, that only came from your expectations not being met?
What can you appreciate because you didn’t get what you wanted?
That friend I spoke of at the beginning of this story, with the sage advice on how to avoid disappointment…
it was an ex-boyfriend.
Had that relationship worked out, absolutely none of the wonderful things in my present life would have come true.
I’m so thankful that I didn’t get what I thought I wanted.
What are you so thankful you DIDN’T get?

 

What are You Focusing On?

It seems ‘looking for the good’ in any moment is getting harder and harder.
Challenges just keep coming… and coming!
Are you feeling overwhelmed?
I sure am.There is a phenomenon of the human brain, called ‘stacking‘.

We all do it, and noticing when we’re doing it can be a very useful tool, especially when overwhelm is setting in.

What IS ‘stacking’??
It’s just what you might think it is.
It’s the mental collecting (or stacking) of thoughts: emotions, experiences, expectations, and outcomes.
And as the ‘stack’ gets larger, your emotional state is either higher, or lower… depending on if you’re stacking positive or negative thoughts.

When you’re on a roll and great things are coming at you left, right, and centre… this is positive stacking. You’re getting compliments, you’re feeling good, you’re feeling successful, you’re smiling ear to ear. Your energy is high. Maybe a promotion, or good luck, or a great hair day, or a new relationship, or beautiful weather, or you’re down a few pounds….
You know, those days when nothing can take you down?

Negative stacking is when you’re collecting and tabulating all the ‘bad’ in your life…. health issues, politics, COVID, misunderstandings, climate change, stressful relationships, financial distress, disappointments, online school, family responsibilities…
Ugh… it feels gross and heavy just listing them all in one place.

Look again at the top photo.

The heart wants to stack GOOD things.
The brain wants to stack BAD things.

The next time you’re feeling overloaded, catch yourself, and recognize exactly what you’re listing.
Notice if you’re predominantly stacking negatives.
Then, feel your feet in your shoes…
Take your awareness into you heart and into your belly…
Take a few deeps breaths….
On your inhales, think:
“I am grateful for…..”
As you exhale, list something you’re grateful for.

Do this several rounds.

There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for.
And the more you pay attention, the more there is to feel thankful for.
Stack your positives and you will very quickly change your emotional state.

Especially during these times, life can bring us down.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling down.
Everyone does, from time to time.
It’s on of the spectrum of normal, natural human emotions.Staying there, and living in the negative is when it’s troublesome.
Your quality of life is where you live emotionally.
Turn on your favourite music.
Take a hot bath.
Take a cold shower.
Go for a walk.
Cuddle with a pet.
Write in your journal.
Break a sweat.
Listen to a funny podcast.
Call a friend.The human spirit is resilient. YOU are resilient.
We need you.
Life can be hard. Life IS hard.And it’s also utterly and completely beautiful.

Our community is here for you. Our team is here for you.
I am here for you.
And you are so loved.

Jenny xo

Thoughts to Consider:
Energetically, what does it feel like in your body when you notice you’ve been living in the negative?
What are some things you do to pull yourself out of a state of overwhelm?
What are you grateful for?

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You xx

As I was addressing Ann’s class this morning, our last class before we temporarily close our physical doors, a few of you said “thank you”.

Wow. It’s such a simple phrase. And it has touched me very deeply. 😭

I’ve been so concerned with figuring out how to maintain our quality services. I’ve been focused on how to *not* disappoint our community.

It didn’t occur to me that my efforts are actually being seen. And appreciated.

Thank YOU. Your support and trust (and the support of our 5th Element community as well) means SO MUCH to me and my family.

I’m thankful I was able to speak to some of you in person before we make this transition. Your kindness feels like a beautiful gift and it’s given me an extra boost of strength and motivation.

These are tough times. And they’re also special times. We have a chance to rise above and make the best of an uncomfortable situation.

I think our resilience will surprise us.

Please continue to support local businesses as you can. We need each other more than ever.

Have a wonderful Sunday. 💜

Love to All, Jenny xx

Zombie Thriller Flash Mob – 6th Year! Thursday, Oct 31, 2019 in Port Angeles

This Thursday marks our 6th year surprising the crowds of Port Angeles, dressed as Zombies and dancing to Michael Jackson’s Thriller! If you’ve got the time, catch us at one of our venues…. and if you take photos or videos, please share them with us… we’d love to see them!!

Laurel Place Senior Living (1133 E Park Ave) – 1PM
Peninsula College (cafeteria) – 1:15PM
Nols-Port Angeles Branch – 1:30PM
Swain’s General Store – 1:45PM
Safeway (3rd Street location) – 2PM
Country Aire Natural Foods Market  (out front, under the canopy) – 2:30PM
Laurel Street Fountain – 2:45PM

Below are a few photos from last years’ Flash Mob!

Sher Cappa Is Back September 4th, 2019!

Yoga with Sher
with Sher Cappa
Wednesdays 2-3PM
PA location
Sher Cappa is back and her new class will begin September 4th!! This will be a specialized class, focusing on making safe modifications and accepting individual limitations, making accommodations for current physical abilities, and gradually (and safely!) improving on these abilities.
In order for Sher to offer individual assistance, this class will be limited to 10 students. We ask that you be especially mindful of holding a space for yourself in this class. If you cannot make it, please sign yourself off the roster, or let us know at the desk (360.452.6121)

Let’s Talk About Health & Wellness (FREE Info-Session at Poser YOGA)

Let’s Talk About Health & Wellness
with Mary Bailey & Candi Griffith
Thursday Aug 15th
7-8PM
Port Angeles location

We are so excited to be able to offer a space for these ladies to share their wealth of knowledge! These two women have many, many topics they are passionate about and we’d love to offer a FREE info-session once a month. We’ll give this first one a try and see what the response is!

We’ll launch with a conversation on DIGESTION.
-Supporting the Stomach and Spleen
-Keeping your Digestive Fire Burning
-The Root Cause of Acid Reflux and Heartburn (this will surprise most people)
Did we mention… IT’S FREE!!

Goat Yoga at Arcadia Farm, Sunday June 23, 2019!

Greetings all goat-lovin’ Yogis! We are very excited to prepare this event for you! We have nearly 60 attendees planning to join us this weekend! We’ve been told that there are 11 babies, ranging 2-3 months old, and 9 full grown sweeties, and they are all very friendly and eager to play! This is going to be a blaaaaast!!

 

The venue is located at 149 Blackbird Lane
Just a few minutes South on Black Diamond Road
600 block of Black Diamond Road; 1/4 mile after the Church on the first hill, turn Left on Blackbird Lane (at which point, please drive slowly)
Sunday June 23 | 12PM
Suggested Donation $5-$10
Proceeds go to Pennies for Quarters

Here is a message from our host, Gail:

Hi everyone! The goats and kids are super excited to meet all the yogis on Sunday! I’d like to remind everyone to please bring your own mat, plenty of water, and sunscreen & hats in case it’s sunny (there’s no shade in the pasture). Please drive slowly on Blackbird Lane (10 mph). We are inside the gate on the end. You can park anywhere on the circular drive that doesn’t block it. If it’s full, you can park along the lane outside.

Time to Practice at Home?

Have you ever practiced Yoga at home? Snowy weekends offer a perfect opportunity to get started! You’ll probably be surprised to see that you know more than you think you do, and you can personalize your practice to exactly what you want and need! Start in Child’s Pose. Then a few Cat/Cow. Back to Child’s Pose… to Down Dog, back to Child’s Pose…. repeat a few times. There you have it.

Here’s an article that suggests a few really great online options…
Click on the image below and check it out!

Send us your pics and show us your favourite posture!!

 

 

The Waitlist – What Does It Mean?

You’ve just signed up online for your next class with us, and you’ve been put on the waitlist…

What does that mean?

It means that you should still prepare to come to class! This is our best way of managing the size of our classes. We have enough room for everyone on the regular roster AND the waitlist. 

If/when people sign out of class, those on the waitlist get bumped up, onto the regular class list, making room for new wait-listers.

Please arrive early to claim your reserved spot. 5 minutes before class starts, unclaimed reservations may be released to those waiting at the door.

If you cannot make it to class, please ‘early cancel’ yourself off the list to make room for others. This will help us out at the 5 minute mark when we’re not sure if you’re still on your way, or not coming at all.

Thank you for helping us run things smoothly!! 💜🙏🏻